I’M SICK OF IT…..a series of thoughts/questions I have …..4/12/12

This next thought relates to all of you. When it comes to men and women understanding one another, you have to admit that things do get weird at times. I am not talking about every aspect of relationships. That would be something I could write a book about. lol I am referring to the way that men and women communicate. Maybe I should have said the way they DO NOT communicate. lol Here is my thought.

Why do men and women speak different languages and have failure in communicating what the heck they are trying to say?

I believe that unless you happen to actually speak different languages, there should not be such a struggle. lol I believe part of the reason is because men tend to “think about” what they are going to say and women just “say it!”I kind of like the “just say it” better. The reason is, I am speaking from the emotions I am feeling at that particular time and the other person should be able to recognize them. (Of course, this is not always the case.) Men who sit there and have that puzzled look on their face because they do not know what to say without the fear of being yelled at, I tend to feel sorry for. A man should be able to express his emotions as well and the other party should be sensitive to them. I always take a breath and smile before I answer my hubby. That helps me to observe. It helps me to respond in a positive way instead of saying things like, :What an a**hole!” lol

There always tends to be an underlying situation brewing in the other person that makes them say and do what they say and do. Be aware of that. Be sensitive of that. Do not just “look” for a reason to get into a fight. Look for a reason to show “love to one another.”

Believe in Yourself;

Luisa Doraz

I’M SICK OF IT…..a series of thoughts/questions I have …..4/11/12

For those of you who like to be philosophical, I am going to begin a series of questions that I have saved over the years of my life, so far. They are subjects related to human behavior that I am quite frankly getting sick of hearing about. You can think about the question and just move on, or you can actually offer your opinion on it. I am basically going to be thinking out loud in my head and then sharing what I come up with. Keep in mind, these are all just MY opinions. They are not directed at anyone in particular. Last time I checked, I am entitled to my opinion, right? So, if you like..please join in. If you do not, I understand. My first thought and question…….

Why are you always trying to get someone else to like you, don’t you like yourself?

My thought is, if I do not like who I am, I need to do something about that. I can listen to what others think, but I am the one who has to live with myself everyday. I want to get a good feeling about myself when I look in the mirror. I want to be able to say that I did everything I could possibly do to work out a situation in my life. I do not have time to try to figure out what the person next to me expects from me. I do not have time to worry that I do not speak proper English or dress the way the person next to me thinks I should be dressing. I do not have time to figure out why the world is the way it is and whyI am not doing enough about it. I do the very best I can, and I know that about myself. I do not have time to be the person that you expect me to be, I am just me. You can take it or you can leave it. I believe a person needs to take time with themselves and get to like who they are. The traits that you do not like, you simply list them and work on them EVERYDAY until they change to the way you would rather be. I just want everyone to believe in themselves. Once you do, you can do anything. So, start fresh. Sit down. Write some nice things about you on one page. On the other , write anything you think is ugly about you. Then, get started. With the support of professionals, you can achieve your goal. Just stay focused.

Believe in Yourself;

Luisa Doraz