Oh, I get it now!

I figure that if you’re intimidated, you did something wrong. I figure that if you were ok with yourself, you would not feel like you had to defend yourself! Maybe what the other person said or did is in fact well deserved. Then you should feel intimidated and only then. If you did nothing wrong and just happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time and got in the cross fire of an angry person….DO NOT LET THEM INTIMIDATE YOU! Stand strong in your convictions. Stand strong in your beliefs. That other person is going through something in their day that is bothering them and they do not know how to communicate that to someone. You can try to be a good listener and help the other person out. If they do not let up….give them time on their own to calm down. They are in a different place and just need to get ground again. Give them time. Meanwhile, go out and treat yourself to something special. You deserve it!

Believe in Yourself!

“Smile”.It Works Better….

No matter what you say to me, when you ” smile” things do not look so bad. I think the natural response a person should have to anything that is said to them by anyone, should be a ” smile.” Even if the person is yelling at you for something you did that they did not like, look right at them before you speak…and ” smile.” It will start to get the other person less agitated with you…believe me, it works! Resist the urge to yell back at the person. Stop…reflex, and “smile” before you answer them. Keep your voice level set to about a 4 not a 10. If you respond with a calm voice, it also will calm down the other person. Believe me, it works. People do not like to have to raise their blood pressure if they do not have to. They prefer to be cool, calm, and collected. So, give it a try. What have you got to lose. Change the mix when you deal with someone. Do not let them see a ” smile” coming their way! Surprise them!

Believe in Yourself;
Dorazl