Do you feel it is fine for women to give up their birth name once they are married? Are you? Did you? For the men….do you feel women should or shouldn’t have to?
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NO……..ABSOLUTELY NOT !!!Why should one give up an identity which one has acquired since marriage?? Many might say what is in a name but, for a fact how many of those people would feel nice if they are called by a new name everytime they move into a new circumstance? I strongly feel that changing any aspect of the personality be it name or any other aspect should be solely on the discretion of the individual and not subjective to any circumstance such as marriage.
P.S. just a typing mistake…I meant an identity which one has acquired since birth.
vijayalaxmi, thanks for stopping by and commenting on this subject! I think you reasoning sounds just fine! A person has to be able to do what makes them happy in life!
how about men taking the woman’s name? that would be QUITE a turn of things 🙂
ggw_bach, why not?….That would be something I would want to follow up on!
’tis up to the individuals. I dropped mine but sometimes think I should have hyphenated. My brother took (in addition to his own) his wife’s surname.
S.Le, you said it…it should be left up to the individual!
Honestly What ever they want to do. I was trying to get Navar to take my last name only Joking but he would have nothing to do with it. LOL It’s a tough last name oh well. That’s cool S.Le.
Starla, got me curious! LOL
NO UNIFORM PRACTICE HERE. IT ALL DEPENDS ON WHERE ONE GETS MARRIED.
Iviss, different cultures do have a lot to say!
Personal preference. My last name became my middle name and I took Hubby’s name as my last name. Why didn’t I simply hyphenate? Because this way was free and there was a processing fee for hyphenating. Wow, I guess I was motivated by cash! lol
Era….that was a great idea…..money or not!
I was more than happy to give up my last name and take my husbands. It was unheard of when I got married not to do this. My husband would have felt bad I know just because it was just done this way then. I had a last name that was never pronounced right and now I have a good old Scandinavian last name just like most of the population of Minnesota. Given that said, if I ever did get married again, which I won’t, but if I did, I’d keep Erickson. It’s a good name and my kids have it as well as my grandchildren.
Joy, tradition speaks for itself!
You have a cool last name, I would keep it , too!
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When I got married, I did not want to give up my last name. It was my identity. It was cool! So, for a while…I used my maiden name as my middle name. Then, I got tired of explaining it to people in society, so I dropped my maiden name. I never identified with my married name, weird? I felt, just because I got married…why should I “turn into” another person. So, now I use my married name on all the legal documents…my “real” name on whatever!!!
I’m with Joy on the subject. I have been divorced for 20 years but I kept my married name because I wanted to have the same last name as my kids and my hasband is my best friend so I don’t mind having his name. I’ve had the name for so long I know I wouldn’t remember to use my old name if I changed back.
Joan, I think it is great that you are friends with your X! If you are comfortable with your new last name…why not keep it? 🙂
I felt it was only natural to take on my husband’s last name. Besides, “what’s in a name? A rose by any other name would still smell as sweet.”
Morocco…great point!
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I don’t feel that a woman HAS to, although I don’t think I would marry a woman that would not take my name. I would seriously feel offended by that.
That’s just me though. 😀
Gary, you are a sweet, old fashioned type of guy! We love ya that way!
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