I’M SICK OF IT…..a series of thoughts/questions I have …..4/27/12

Is it really so hard for you to pay people a compliment when they deserve it?

I am talking about those of you out there who never seem to get the message that other people love compliments, just like you do! It seems that many people have issues with their self-esteem and seem to think that they should feed off the emotions of others, yet show them no emotions. I believe that some people, regardless of the reason…seem to always want to have the attention. If someone else happens to get some, what an ugly look they make on their faces. You all know who I am talking about. There is always one in the bunch. I believe we all need to get a boost when it comes to self-esteem issues. I always give a nice compliment when someone deserves the praise. I feel that the positive energy it generates is good for all in this world. A smile on ones face is so precious to me. So, give it a try. Notice things happening around you. Notice the faces of others. When you can make others smile, why wouldn’t you? I guarantee you will smile as well. Give it a try, OK? Meanwhile, have a fantastic life. Live and experience it with a smile.

Believe in Yourself;

Luisa Doraz

I’M SICK OF IT…..a series of thoughts/questions I have …..4/23/12

Do you believe that you are rich in life if you have your family, friends, faith,and good health?

I answer that with a YES, FOR SURE!

If I did not have my family and friends, I would be going in all directions with my head. I believe the support and love you can get from your family and friends is VERY important to your mental health. There may be times when you get angry with them, but your/their LOVE will get you past it. I remember it is not my place to judge, so I always allow others to express themselves without that fear. My personal faith is something I really cherish. I do not take things for granted. I appreciate. I am so lucky to be in pretty good health. Like all of us out there, I do have issues. I do not let them control my choices in life.I feel like I won the lottery everyday I open my eyes .

Believe in Yourself;

Luisa Doraz

I’M SICK OF IT…..a series of thoughts/questions I have …..4/18/12

Why are there some people in life who expect to be served on a silver platter all the time when they should just lighten up and eat at a fast food place like the rest of us do?

You all know who I am referring too, right? There is always at least one in the bunch who feel that this life is meant to be a place where THEY get served, forget the rest. I know you all know someone like this. They are people who feel they are the only ones around who deserve the best in this life. They feel if anyone should have it, it should be them. They would never buy a coffee from a local fast food place, it has to be a speciality coffee shop, right? I have to admit that sometimes I do treat myself to special times when I go out. It does not mean I think I am anymore special than anyone else, it just means that, for me…mentally…I need a break! So, I do spoil myself then. That, in my opinion is fine. I just wish that those of us who can afford more things in life than others just do not brag about it. They should be able to talk about things, just do not be so arrogant. That’s all for now. I just wonder if I am the only one out there who thinks this way. What is your opinion?

Believe in Yourself;

Luisa Doraz

I’M SICK OF IT…..a series of thoughts/questions I have …..4/14/12

When you go get something to eat at your favorite fast food place or your special restaurant and you are just exhausted physically and mentally, the last thing you want is to be served by someone who has been having a bad day. I mean, they do not even acknowledge you are there. They just keep talking to their co-workers on and on about who knows what. They are those people who do not smile or make any attempt to be nice. They are those that feel we should be serving them and they are just annoyed to be at their job. You know, those kind of people. Well, to all of you out there that have this personality trait, please get another job besides the one you have. It is so obvious to me that you hate you job, so why not accept that and move on. If you feel you can not move on, for financial reasons…then realize that it is not the fault of the person you are serving, so do not take it out on them. If you start a conversation with them and say that you are having a rough day, that would make it easier for the customer to handle. Be honest with your emotions. Do not radiate your disgust to an innocent party of people. Life is really too short. You need to see what will work for you and your situation, and you need to do the best you can…with a smile. It is better mentally if you keep a little of a positive attitude as opposed to a negative one..all the time. Switch it up now and then.

Believe in Yourself;

Luisa Doraz

Just because you are not happy with your job, why take it out on the rest of us?

I’M SICK OF IT…..a series of thoughts/questions I have …..4/12/12

This next thought relates to all of you. When it comes to men and women understanding one another, you have to admit that things do get weird at times. I am not talking about every aspect of relationships. That would be something I could write a book about. lol I am referring to the way that men and women communicate. Maybe I should have said the way they DO NOT communicate. lol Here is my thought.

Why do men and women speak different languages and have failure in communicating what the heck they are trying to say?

I believe that unless you happen to actually speak different languages, there should not be such a struggle. lol I believe part of the reason is because men tend to “think about” what they are going to say and women just “say it!”I kind of like the “just say it” better. The reason is, I am speaking from the emotions I am feeling at that particular time and the other person should be able to recognize them. (Of course, this is not always the case.) Men who sit there and have that puzzled look on their face because they do not know what to say without the fear of being yelled at, I tend to feel sorry for. A man should be able to express his emotions as well and the other party should be sensitive to them. I always take a breath and smile before I answer my hubby. That helps me to observe. It helps me to respond in a positive way instead of saying things like, :What an a**hole!” lol

There always tends to be an underlying situation brewing in the other person that makes them say and do what they say and do. Be aware of that. Be sensitive of that. Do not just “look” for a reason to get into a fight. Look for a reason to show “love to one another.”

Believe in Yourself;

Luisa Doraz

I’M SICK OF IT…..a series of thoughts/questions I have …..4/11/12

For those of you who like to be philosophical, I am going to begin a series of questions that I have saved over the years of my life, so far. They are subjects related to human behavior that I am quite frankly getting sick of hearing about. You can think about the question and just move on, or you can actually offer your opinion on it. I am basically going to be thinking out loud in my head and then sharing what I come up with. Keep in mind, these are all just MY opinions. They are not directed at anyone in particular. Last time I checked, I am entitled to my opinion, right? So, if you like..please join in. If you do not, I understand. My first thought and question…….

Why are you always trying to get someone else to like you, don’t you like yourself?

My thought is, if I do not like who I am, I need to do something about that. I can listen to what others think, but I am the one who has to live with myself everyday. I want to get a good feeling about myself when I look in the mirror. I want to be able to say that I did everything I could possibly do to work out a situation in my life. I do not have time to try to figure out what the person next to me expects from me. I do not have time to worry that I do not speak proper English or dress the way the person next to me thinks I should be dressing. I do not have time to figure out why the world is the way it is and whyI am not doing enough about it. I do the very best I can, and I know that about myself. I do not have time to be the person that you expect me to be, I am just me. You can take it or you can leave it. I believe a person needs to take time with themselves and get to like who they are. The traits that you do not like, you simply list them and work on them EVERYDAY until they change to the way you would rather be. I just want everyone to believe in themselves. Once you do, you can do anything. So, start fresh. Sit down. Write some nice things about you on one page. On the other , write anything you think is ugly about you. Then, get started. With the support of professionals, you can achieve your goal. Just stay focused.

Believe in Yourself;

Luisa Doraz